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My father just isn't doing well and he is refusing to go to the doctor. The man has the best insurance as anyone can get but he just won't go. I know that most won't want to hear this but I'm going to give a rundown anyway. The man has diabetes and has had 2 mild strokes already. His last one was 3.5 years ago.
Anyway this seems different. Those just came on out of the blue. Now it seems like he's always lethargic and has constant diarrhea. I have told him for years that he had to put a stop to eating what he does. He is a diabetic who lives on pasta. I'm serious when I say that he eats nothing but sweets and pasta. Man just doesn't fvcking listen.
Am I going to just have to knock him out and take him kicking and screaming to the doctor? He just won't go. If anyone else has had a father or friend go through these type symptoms I would appreciate some help.
I literally have the same problem ( like exactly the same ) and don't have advice cause I don't feel there is any to be given
My pops just doesn't give a shit as do most males when it becomes crunch time in the game of life
Imo you just have to let them meet the end the way they want to no matter how hard it is for you, I feel your pain though friendo but again.... it may sound ridiculous, but they have the right to do what they want and its selfish ( a good kind of selfish but still selfish ) if you try to step in and force something on them in this situation
Good luck though, Ill say a prayer for you
This post was edited by NoVaNoles 15 months ago
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It's hard man. I feel your pain. My mom is in her early 60's & always tells me stuff that is wrong with her. One day her chest hurts & she can't breath, the next her legs are numb & a whole laundry list of stuff. She also has top notch insurance, but won't hear of going to the doctor. She hasn't gone to the doctors in like 8 years. Not too long ago she was telling me about something else wrong with her & I snapped & asked her what she expected me to do for her. & that I forgot going to medical school & what did she want me to do, lay her on the table & check her out & write her a scrip? or plan a course of action? She finally said she was gonna set an appointment, that was 2 weeks ago. We'll see. I guess parents as they age get more stubborn. Good luck bro. Hope your old man comes to his senses & goes to the Doc.
This post was edited by big john 15 months ago
Well I got my stubbornness from someone I guess.
I've always said that I was going to die the way that I wanted. I'm just fvcking torn brother. I want to just pick his ass up and drive him to the hospital. The last three weeks have been weird.
He won't let me do it though.
Sounds like my mom. She has a stress fracture in foot that needs surgery badly from all the walking she does. Doctors have been telling her for years to get it fixed. She went to ten plus doctors in regards to the foot. One of them told her surgery might not fix the issues. Now she has it in her head that surgery is a waste of time. Drives me crazy whenever she whines about her foot since she isn't doing anything to fix it. I hope she eventually gets it fixed but I cannot deal with her any longer. She has a friend of her that's a nurse but has spent years living in a mental hospital that says that surgery is bad and a bunch of other crazy shit. My mom knows she's crazy but this time her friend is right, wtf?
Did you just say foot?
I laft too, dude literally brings up a foot injury when you are talking life and death
You know that I don't try and be a dick unless it's called for but WTF?
Trust me I know what you are going through, my dad had the flu this morning and wouldn't talk any tylenol for his fever
I couldn't believe it, what should I do ?
This post has been edited 2 times, most recently by NoVaNoles 15 months ago
If your dad is anything like mine, it beats the hell out of me.
This post was edited by RATT 15 months ago
I feel for ya.
If I were to detail the full magnitude of the issues I've dealt with with my parents in the last year--85 year old Dad [with Parkinsons and diabetes] having second open heart surgery in last ten years, still not yet rehabbed enough to be ambulatory, therefore still in rehab in a skilled nursing facility [with no realistic prospect of becoming ambulatory enough to ever move beyond assisted living at best], onset of Mom's [mild at this point] dementia, her move out of their home into an "independent living" unit at a Retirement facility with transition into assisted living on the horizon, taking her driving privileges away, dealing with VA to get all of the benefits my Dad is entitled to, handling all of their bills, etc., etc---it would take me an a couple of hours to type the post.
Bottom line: In dealing with aging parents you do what you can as best you can. But it's not a perfect world.
This post was edited by ftlaudcock 15 months ago
"I Am The One Who Knocks.." - WW
I was in a similar situation, but i live in FL and my parents live in Missouri. Well i got a call from my mom saying that my fathers chest had been hurting off and on for the past few days. They had just gotten back from vacation and he refused to go to the hospital.
So what i did is i called him and told him to stay put and that i am calling an ambulance to pick his stubborn ass up and if you refuse then i will drive the 12 hours and pick you up myself. Told him i was packing my suitcase and will be there the next morning.
After that he told me not to come and he will go to the hospital. Well shortly after that i ended up going anyway cause he had to have a triple bypass due to heart attacks he was having.
I was in a similar position,, I told my dad he had 2 options. We could go to doc or me and my mom would have him committed for psych eval. 2 family members signatures is enough for a legal committal for psych eval from what I have read. I told him I knew he was not crazy, but they would do a physical work up during his stay.. Suffice it to say he agreed to go.
Sadly, they found pancreatic cancer and we buried him 6 weeks later. But he knew I loved and cared for him because of my actions. I miss that old sailor.
Put the tylenol inside a hamburger IMO
Pride is a major issue for most older folks..
Heads up for anyone that really cares.
I took my father to the hospital yesterday and he finally allowed me to thank god. I don't know much about blood sugar for diabetics but it was up around 360 and his body about shut down. He is still there but his blood sugar has dropped to 188 at this point.
I told the doctor that he wouldn't listen to me for days and the doctor jumped all over him. Maybe he'll listen to them. He sure as hell doesn't listen to me.
Thats good to hear man.. Glad he caved in about going to the doctor before it was to late.
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